I’ve heard stories of people living and dying for love. How Jack froze to death for Rose. The forbidden love of Romeo and Juliet…. Yadiyadiya… I’ve read definitions of love in different languages. More often than usual, I’ve seen with my eyes different expressions of love, even those that seem to express it in the weirdest of ways. For the sake of this post, I won’t be making reference to the four classifications of love by the Greek.
They say everyone has their true love, according to movies that is. Which makes some people live their whole lives wandering the surface of the earth to meet that perfect match. And I even heard we all have just one true love 😦
People have done stupid things, lost their self worth, been deceived and broken for the sake of love or at least what was dished out to them as love.
I’ve never been in love. I mean, I’ve had butterflies in my belly just by the thoughts of that special someone,I’ve had a foolish/sheepish smile glued to my face while I spoke to him on the phone, I’ve had day dreaming moments lasting hours, I’ve gone days without food because my stomach was filled with sweet nothings whispered into my ears by my significant other ( okay I lied about the last part. I love food). My point is, these are all the things they said I’ll feel when I’m in love right ? I’ve felt it all ( and by they, I mean the movies and books). They also said I’m “allowed” one true love, but I’ve felt this for more than one person so it’s all getting kinda confusing. Which is why I concluded that I’ve never been in love. So what exactly is this love they speak of?
My sources ( the books and movies) have also made me believe that I haven’t been in love until I’m romantically attracted to the other.What about the love I have for God, my family and my friends? Is that a different kind of love from the one they speak of ? And if it is still the same love, why am I being seen as sad and lonely if I’m loved by the above mentioned people and the only one missing is “Mr true love”. If for some reason my one “true love” and I are too lazy to trek planet earth and we don’t eventually meet, which is very possible if he is as lazy as I am,does this sum up to me not achieving my main goal in life ( finding my true love )?
Obviously my sources have too many loopholes and discrepancies. So I sought for more answers, i needed to know that if at the end of the day I die without meeting the “ordained” one, I won’t be considered a failure. And guess what? I found the answer and here it is.
“Love is patient,love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves”. Booyah! Equation solved. Turns out this kind of love has been there for me all this while.
And that right there is the authentic love , every other thing is a counterfeit. In the real sense of it, only God can give this kind of love which makes the rest of us learners.
There has always been so much pressure when it comes to finding love. And of late, with Instagram, the pressure has been intensified. Everyone wants to have captions like: “Him”, “The Bae”, “*love struck” etc.
I get that the whole thing can be overwhelming and leave us wanting it too especially for the association of singletons. But let’s not let this push us to settling for “pitiful love”. Don’t let the craze all around you distract you from the authentic love which is available for all. The love of God. Don’t be so mesmerized by the movie life, living all your life searching for love and end up being offered something far fetched from the real deal.We, as humans,may not be able to love the agape kind of love, but that doesn’t mean we can’t have something at least close enough.
And if this God feels there are some things you need to get done before you have that special someone in your life, then let his will be done. Don’t force it. After all, he’s the author of love.
Don’t let the society force you into believing that your aim in life is to find your true love, no your aim in life is to let God be glorified through you.